A recent survey of 79 women conducted on the streets of New York City revealed that good eye contact before and during the 1st interaction is ultra important. The majority of women interviewed stated that if a guy looked at them in an exuberant manor and mixed in some quality facial animation, it would spark a level of curiosity. At this point, women will often reciprocate with a smile, or turn their head away. Either way, you as the guy will gain valuable information as to the likely wood of a successful approach. This feedback can often times save you valuable time and effort. Understand that not all women are in an ideal emotional state for meeting new people.
Let’s get this straight; women gain tons of information about the guy just by the way he looks at her. The guy that tilts his head down or sneaks a peek and quickly looks away is perceived as timid or weak. This is not the signal you want to send if your goal is to get the girl. This brings us to another valuable point, which I insist you to commit to memory. There is a difference between holding a woman’s gaze and steering at her. Looking at a woman for a prolonged period of time with a poker face makes you hard to read and appear menacing. This is a NO NO, and is viewed by women as being creepy! Remember, eye contact is not a steer down contest and should not be treated as such. Yes if she looks away smiles and blushes you have just gotten a great reaction, but it’s still NOT a steer down contest.
Instead your eye contact should confidently convey your intention to approach while stimulating her senses. This is not hard guys, here are a few things that you could do to increase your odds of success. Holding your head up projects confidence, tilting it to the left implies curiosity or fascination on your part. A slit smile is friendly, a raised brow is playful. A wink is powerful and is best used after you have gotten some form of positive feed back. Your queue that you have broken the ice may come in a variety of ways. A smile or blush will be the most common, but has your skills improve women will not only wink back at you, but also say “hi”.
Make no mistake; eye contact and touching are NON-VERBAL forms of communication, which you should defiantly practice and master. What is said verbally accounts for less than 50% of what is communicated in an interaction.
Here is a radical tid bit, when a woman holds your gaze the 1st one to look away is normally the more submissive. Don’t get confused; making eye contact is still NOT a stair down contest. Instead welcome it as your 1st chance to win her, and as such you should implore some of the above techniques for example smiling. This should be followed up in a timely manner with gestures, like a wave and or saying hi.
Go out and practice making eye contact with random people, yes people in the streets, supermarkets where ever. Your objective here will be to refine your skills and make positive eye contact a natural part of you repertoire.
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