(1) Stop acting like an egg that cracks and breaks every time a woman turns you down or does not play along. Not all women are right for you and more importantly confidence will get more respect and attention. Start by placing more value on you and your time. From your 1st meeting you need to set your self apart. This is not hard guys; one typical mistake is to over compliment women. For example “you are smoking hot”. Try instead “you are cute” or just not mention that she is gorgeous at all. There are many more things to say that will work better for you. Be a little cocky, being self-assured is attractive. Just do not get obnoxious with it.
(2) Speak with your hands and find clever playful ways of touching her. Give her the impression that you are an expressive person who uses hand gestures as a natural part of communicating. This will make it much easier for you to touch her hand, shoulder, hair etc. Touching forms a nice playful bound that can be turned into something sexual at a moments notice. The goal here is to make her comfortable, so much so that if you touch her hair or neck she will not be freaked out. By the way if she allows you to do this you are in!!!!!!!!!
The MOST IMPORTANT rule when touching her is to do it RIGHT AWAY. Just As you meet her poke her in the tummy and say “hey, check this out”. Or you could have said “Hey I think you’re a prankster”. It’s Much easier and more NATURAL to touch her if it’s done while you are not directly in front of her or even looking at her at the time.
She will feel when you touch her, but not feel weird about it because you didn’t have her cornered which is how most women feel when you a stranger stands toe to toe with them and tries to start a conversation. So stand slightly to the side of her and adjust your body based on the conversation.
(3) Never give women the impression that you are at their beckon call. The guy that drops everything to get a woman coffee, or says I am free every night so call me is desperate!!! As we said earlier place more value on you and your time. Yes you want the girl and love to take her on a date, but DO NOT show in this manner. Instead force her to be interested and CURIOUS about you. Here is a way to invite a girl out that will show you time is valuable and make curious at the same time. “Hey, let’s do something Wednesday or Friday”. “Most other days I tend to be busy with cooking or kick-boxing class, so those days work for me”. “Which is good for you, I will even allow you to pick the time as you are working on my schedule”. WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Do you see how many things you just conveyed? 1st you are taking control and telling her these are the days that work for you. [Women like a guy that takes control]. Then you are letting her know that there is more to you than meets the eye. [Not all women cook or even know how to, so a man that cooks and cooks well is super attractive]. Then so as to not make her feel boxed in, you give a say as to what time you should pick her up. You have taken charge, but this tid bit of power that you have given her to choose the time will give her some comfort.
(4) Make her not only contribute to the conversation but also get her invested and involved. There are many ways to do this, one of which is to give her a task or challenge. For example, you could after you have introduced your self say to her. “You look like a fun girl, so lets do this”. “I will buy you a really unusual drink that I know you will love, if you can tell me what cologne I am wearing”. Are you getting the possibilities here? If not let me lay them out for you. Her next question will be how do you expect me to know? Then you say in a smooth tone while using some appropriate facial animation and hand gestures. I bet you have a good sense of smell, lean in…[pause]… take a wif. If you guess wrong I will tell you, BUT you will have to buy me coffee. She will agree 8 of 10 times to this wager if you give off a playful vibe and your energy level right. [AMAZING] You have sparked her curiosity about this drink that she will absolutely love. Then you made a playful game of it, made her get close to you, [very clever by the way]. Then you set up the possibility of a date at some other time….
(5) Demonstrate higher value, here are few way to do this. Improve you conversational skills by avoid using Hum, Ooo, and Errrrr in your speech. These are normally used to give us time to think of we what to say. Instead try slowing down or pausing, this will build some anticipation, which will work better for you.
(6) Learn a few magic tricks but avoid card tricks because you will look like a clown
if you bring a beck of cards to the clubs. The excitement and mystery sounding magic will serve you well in getting her to see you as worth getting to know. The plus about using magic in your game is that there will be many chances to touch her.
(7) Avoid leaning in, this makes you look weak or at the very least like you are trying too hard. Try this instead. Since you should be using a lot of facial animation and gestures to communicate it will not seem weird if you gesture to her that you can not hear, then gently pull her closer while turning your ears in her direction. This will be a better stronger posture for you and now she is closer to you, which makes for a more intimate interaction. [Please note, because you just met this girl make sure when you touch her it’s a part of the body not normally associated with sex].
(8) Go out and practice, make eye contact, say hi and see all the different reaction you get. Getting good at picking up women requires a lot of interacting and definitely involves trial and error. Practice makes perfect as they say and you will need to use all you have learned until you find a natural style that works for you. You will get to a stage where you develop natural game, this where you no longer need or use routines, canned lines etc. This will be the ultimate you, Mr. chic magnet who KNOWS he has the power to seduce and conquer with ease. With great power come great responsibility, don’t be a jerk!
